The Taylors' Front Porch
Pull up a chair! Have a sit-down an' shoot the breeze with us. Later on, maybe we'll go down to the drugstore to get a bottle of pop .  .  . maybe see what's showin' at the Grand .  .  .  . What you gonna do tonight, Barn?


April 23, 2014 - Msg 97642: Ok, that was a pretty long post. Though it could have been longer if I would have broken up some of the paragraphs. Even though it looks like I should have done so.
You'll have to forgive the typos also.

Oh yeah, I knew I had a fifth one, I love Gilligan's Island! Yes it is absurd but that is part of what is so funny about it. But I guess you have to like that sort of thing.

-Sterling Holobyte

April 23, 2014 - Msg 97643: So long it even made me sweep the porch!

-SH

April 23, 2014 - Msg 97644: Wow, Sterling, you must be tired! Also, I nearly sprayed my iced tea when I read that line about having to post it to see how long it is. That has a very familiar ring to it! At least your post makes sense, unlike the Affordable Care Act.

You're a very concerned and involved dad, and you can be proud of that. You're now entering the years with Kai where you have to start letting go, just the tiniest bit. You have raised her right, taught her right from wrong, grounded her in the scriptures, and now you'll have to start trusting her. In a frighteningly few years, she will be making all her own decisions, and won't have to consult you at all. She may, but she won't have to. In this case, she was going with her grandmother, so presumably at least a little good judgment was being used. In a few years she will be driving, and going with people who have no more experience than she has, and they can easily go to a movie that would make "Noah" look like a tea party.

Sorry, dad, I'm just calling 'em as I see 'em, and as I've experienced it. She is going to do some things that will put gray hairs on your head, and scare you to death. She's going to make at least a few terrible choices. She's a kid. There is no teacher like experience. You wouldn't know how it feels to get a burn if you had never touched a hot stove. Fortunately, most blisters and bruises heal, and leave no trace except a memory, otherwise known as "experience."

Did her grandmother have any reason to believe you wouldn't have approved? Is it possible that Kai may have led her to believe it would be okay? Is it possible that Kai herself thought it would be okay? Do you habitually expect everyone to seek your stamp of approval before they do anything that involves Kai, so they should have known not to go without asking you? Once again, experience is the best teacher, and it sounds like you learned a little bit about trusting Kai, like Andy did about trusting Opie - you said so yourself.

Bless your little heart, daddy. You have a precious little daughter, and like most dads, you have a fierce protectiveness toward her, and that's wonderful. It's also very difficult. You want her to be pristine, perfect, almost angelic. Well, having raised four kids, two of them girls, and having watched their dad go through the same wringer you're entering now, I can tell you this - Kai will not reach adulthood without some bumps and bruises. She will make some mistakes. You will suddenly become hopelessly old-fashioned and un-cool. She'll misuse her new-found freedom as she gets older, but she'll learn. Suddenly, you'll get smart again, and develop a new coolness in her eyes, and she will love you all the more for patiently holding her coat as she fought some battles, and for being there to continue loving her when she needed it most.

It's not unlike our relationship with the Lord. He has given us His Word, instructed us on the wisest paths to take, but we do as we please anyway, and then wonder why we get into trouble. When Dale died, I fought God, screamed at Him, questioned how He could DARE take Dale from me. All the while, He let me run on, and then when I was finally exhausted, after a couple of years, He was there when I was ready to return. God is a picture of what every father-child relationship on earth should be.

Well, I've rambled a bit myself. Let's post this one to see what's in it. --Romeena

April 23, 2014 - Msg 97645: My dear friend, Sterling...welcome to the young-teen-girl years. We are in the same boat. ;) Ro's got some good advice, and I happen to know she has a couple of terrific daughters who made it to adulthood and are doing well. God is on our side. :)

Sterling, did the doc (or whatever she was), tell you to come back for a follow-up after your antibiotic?

True about God, Ro, just as a marriage relationship should be symbolic of Christ and his love and care for the church.

Boo

April 23, 2014 - Msg 97646: Thank you, Boo. I think they're pretty terrific too, and they're both very good mothers in their own right. In fact, I just finished a two-hour conversation with Heather, telling me the news about Travis, her middle son. He's a freshman at San Marcos, and is involved in drama and music. I've told you about him before. Sings like an angel, perfect pitch, and can act, too. In fact, he's got the lead role in a production by the Fredericksburg Theater Company, of "The Fantasticks." Not only that, he auditioned for a part in "Rent", with the college theater company. To his shock and joy, he is one of six who have been called back for another audition - for the role of Roger! That hasn't happened yet, so we don't know if he'll get it, but just to be called back for a second audition for that role, by a college theater that's as well respected as Texas State, is a real honor. He's so excited!

Well, I'm hungry, it's 9 pm, so I guess I'd better go eat something. I've been on the phone all evening. My SIL called after I started this post, and we talked for another half hour. My ear is mildewed, I think. Blessings, friends. --Romeena

April 24, 2014 - Msg 97647: Yes, Romeena, I realized they sounded similar myself and was going to make a note about the unaffordable care act, but I thought those who will get it will get it.

As for the rest of your post, yeah, I know Kai is growing up and all that. And I don't micro-manage every bit of her life. Or at least I try not to.
But as for movies, yes, I do want to know what they are going to see. I may trust Kai more now, but I don't trust hollywood one iota.
As for her grandma, well, I don't think she has the greatest discernment from what I know and seen of her.
And besides, I know she is going to do whatever Kai wants to do. But that is typical grandmother stuff. My mom does the same with Kai and Noah. That's why they like it so much over there. And that's why we must continue to be parents, and "keep temptation away." Ok, another TAGS reference. :)
I do appreciate your thoughtful, and sound, advice, Romeena.

Thank you, Boo, for your comments as well.
And yes, I think I mentioned in my post that I would have to see them - maybe that whole group - again in two weeks for a followup. Is Erin feeling better?

-Sterling Holobyte



April 24, 2014 - Msg 97648:
Hi all, lots of "heavy" discussion suddenly on the porch. (why are things heavier in the future?)
(Line from BTTF.)
So, on a "lighter" note, I watched episode 1 today,
and barney mentions being Andy's cousin, yet neither
one ever mentions their folks having any brothers
or sisters. Or did they? (Aunt bee raised Andy, so she was his great aunt I think.)
BOO and RO, do you realize that all three Texas basketball teams (Rockets, Spurs, and Mavs) are all in the playoffs!
GF and ASA, I bet you guys keep Grainger pretty busy! ha
Prayers,
MDC

April 24, 2014 - Msg 97649: Hey Romeena,SH,MDC,Boo !..and all the porch...well had a good tenn.e trip...home now and back to work...ok...let me git busy...breakfast at I-HOP on boo and I....SPOT

April 24, 2014 - Msg 97650: Yes Ro, I do remember you telling us about Travis but I had no idea he was already in college...boy, the time flies. Glad he is doing so well!

Yes, Erin is fine now, thanks for asking Sterling. :) She just finished her STAAR testing in school yesterday (standardized testing), and she said it was easy, so hopefully she passed. She is still doing very well in school and I never really hear any complaints. She seems to have chosen well, as far as friends she associates with. Only about another month of school left in the year, though, and she is going to be bored this summer.

I didn't realize that about the basketball teams, MDC. I don't follow sports but that surprises me. I never thought of Texas as much of a basketball state.

Hey to SPOT!

Boo

April 24, 2014 - Msg 97651: Good morning porch pals.

Wow Romeena, you are a wise woman. The thoughts you offered to Sterling are spot on. I think the Daddy/ Daughter relationship is a special one, and it is such a difficult thing to see them mature and make the inevitable mistakes we all make. But eventually they get through it and if us Dad's have done it right, will again have that wonderful relationship with them. I have two adult daughter's who I love more than life and have a wonderful relationship with. We still have "Daddy / Daughter dates" on a regular basis. I struggled mightily when they met fellows they wanted to marry. There was not anyone anywhere good enough for my "little dumplings" to marry. And early on my relationship with my eventual sons-law were strained because I could see right through the phony bug gers. But I knew I had to let my daughter's go. They both married well and now I have to wonderful sons-law. We all chuckle now at those earlier periods. Both daughters now have daughters of their own, and their daddy's are every bit as protective as I was. It will be a few years before their daughter's reach the dating age and their daddy's have to deal with the growing pains that come with a family, but I am confident that they will deal with it ok.

MDC, Yessir, I am a regular at Grainger and at Johnstone Supply. First name basis with them. Also with Codale Electric, Christensen Electric Motor, Jerrys Plumbing Specialists, and numerous other vendors.

Well I see my Doctor at 10:00 this morning. I am pretty sure he can get me feeling better and walking straight again. It usually takes a day or two after he has tweaked me back into alignment to get feeling better, but by Monday I should be doing a lot better. I hope so, cause I am miserable right now.

Prayers for all for a blessed day.

Asa

April 24, 2014 - Msg 97652: Yes, MDC Like Asa, Grainger was one of my "regulars" they were really great to deal with. They truly have their ducks in a row...Very efficient, and if what you wanted was not in stock, it was their by 10:00 the next morning.
I also dealt a lot with HD Supply (Home Depot Commercial division) except I think they hired monkeys to fill the orders... I had problems with misfiled and incomplete orders. Their problem was if they had the item "in their system" at another location it was not considered a "back order" but you did not know when it would come, so the order would be in limbo to process.... Enough about that, I don't have that on my list these days to be concerned about! Now I have more important things like getting low on bird feed and corn for the squirrels..haha But I still like my trips to Lowes for my "projects"! I prefer Lowes to Home Depot because I know my way around there better + it's closer than HD...
Better go...my squirrels are knocking at my door to remind me that they are out of corn...

G-F....

April 24, 2014 - Msg 97653: Hi all.
G-F it look like time for you t go see a DR. about squirrels knocking at the door. yo are a sick man.

TOM


April 24, 2014 - Msg 97654: TOM, I told them I was all out of corn today, so I gave them a Mr. Cookie bar instead...haha

I have been thinking about the recent posts about dealing with raising kids, I agree with Romeena's advice and how our kids measure up when they have kids of their own, sorta makes a Dad feel good when they remember certain events in their lives, and how they deal with things with their own children... Like when my Daughter reminds me of "The LOOK" I would give them when got into trouble. They knew better than to go beyond that "LOOK" because Dad says what he means, and means what he says.... Yes, she has used that one too with hers... Go figure, it works! But then again there's the other side where you have to let go some and hope & pray they make the right decisions. Not easy that parenting stuff, sometimes it takes years & years to see the impact we have on them. Because it does make us who we are... Sometimes that's a good thing, and sometimes a bad thing...... The best we can do is.. "The Best We Can Do".... I'm just sayin'

G-F again

April 24, 2014 - Msg 97655: G-F, you're so right. You think you're not making a dent in their hard little heads, and then you end up in a conversation like I had with my daughter last night. She actually said, "Mom, how did you put up with me? And now I hear your voice when I'm talking to my kids, and I'm saying what you said to me." I picked up on that cue, and told her that the voice she heard wasn't really mine, it was my own mother's voice, and my dad's mother's voice, all filtered through me. Now she's "channeling" all of us, for lack of a better term. Truth, especially when God is in it, will always endure. Thank you, Lord.

Gotta run, Eloise is on her way over and we're going to an estate sale. Sounds like a lot more fun than digging in that "stuff" up in the bedrooms, and trying to find a place to put it away. I think I'm an overgrown, over-age juvenile delinquent. Blessings, friends! --Romeena

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