May 17, 2006 - Msg 38081:
Mad, Lucy? No way! There are no better folks to talk to when you feel that way than the people here on the porch. Nobody here will judge you and like I have said before, it is very good for you to talk these things out with someone. Please, for my sake and yours, don't ever hesitate to ask for prayer. We care very much about you. Now having said that, help me to understand what you are going through. Did you lose 2 babies, the last one 6 months ago? No wonder you are struggling with this. I can't say that I know how you feel because I don't but I can tell you that I have cried with many women who have been through what you have and it is a pure, sickening grief to lose a baby at any age. Don't be hard on yourself and if you can't face that funeral home, wait until Hubby is back in town and let him carry that load for you. My goodness, it has only been 6 months, Dear One. We are always here for you...I know I am not planning on going anywhere anytime soon...feel free to vent. As Barney would say, "It's ther-a-petic". Prayers for you tonight, that the Lord would wrap you in His peace and comfort.
Boo (a nice, soft shoulder to cry on)
May 17, 2006 - Msg 38082:
Hey, nice sweep if I do say so myself!
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38083:
Thank you, Boo. I really needed to hear that. Let me explain in 1998 I delivered Bryson. In 12/2001 I had a 6 wk miscarriage; 8/18/2004 35 wk stillbirth; 3/2005 8 wk miscarriage; and 11/2005 10 wk miscarriage.
Most days I am able to deal with everything. My grandmother's taught me to be strong and tenacious, but when the cemetary director told me that I would need to go into the funeral home I about lost it. Right now between the dealings with the stepkids, Bryson's been getting into trouble, and then hearing that yesterday I was overwhelmed. I feel a little better just being able to tell someone that I'm upset. Thank you!
I'll be back later!
Blessings to you and yours,
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38084:
Did y'all hear about Jimmy Hoffa maybe being buried in Michigan? ~Lucy
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38085:
My goodness Lucy, you have really been dealing with some issues. Thank you for feeling like you can share these things with . It's probably not easy for you to talk about but let me share something the psychologist told me; he said that our brains store all our experiences and memories and talking about them helps to "get out" the painful emotions and anger. He described it like this, he said let's say your pain is a big mountain of dirt and dumptrucks are going in and carrying away part of the dirt as you talk/journal about your painful/stressful experiences. He said that the dumptrucks are the words that carry the bad emotions out of our brains, then only the memories are left without all the pain. Holding it all inside without expressing it causes it to keep causing us problems for years. So, talk if you need to, start journaling your feelings (if you don't already). I have seen a huge difference in my stress level since I started doing it...just some suggestions that I thought might help. I sense that you are a very courageous person who is doing her best under her burden of stress, remember that you deserve to be treated with respect, honor and love...by you. Find time to take care of YOU. Take a walk, listen to the music that you like, watch a little TAGS...I just bought the 4th Season (finally) and I love it. Anyway, take the time to "be" and not just "do"....and remember to cast your cares on the Lord because he cares for you. Prayers for you and your family today!
ps-didn't hear anything about Jimmy Hoffa??
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38086:
Morning Porchters. And a fine morning it is. Don't you just love this time of year? Birds are chirping, grass is green, has that sweet smell to it when freshly mowed, days are long ,bright and sunny. Just love it!
Lucy, those are some sad things you have gone through. Just keep on keeping on.
Boo, what's going on down in Texas these days? You all still in a bad drought? We had a six year drought here that finally ended last year. Things are back to normal and even more this year.
MDC, Any newson the job? Hope it comes through for you.
Well got lots to do today. Gonna have my hands in a control panel with 480 volt, 3 phase power in it all day. Troubleshooting a control problem on a compressor. (Boo, I'm saying all this cause you said the women like the handymanliness thing lol)
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38087:
"Bear one another's burdens and thus fulfill the law of Christ."
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38088:
Oh ASA, you are making me swoon! hehe
We had a little rain but not much. Things are still pretty brown, none of the crops came up this year and the cows are showing all their ribs. I think you could still say we are in a drought here in South Texas. I think Ro is ok in her neck of the woods. It been kind of depressing because usually we have millions of wildflowers blooming and everything is green this time of year, but not this year. We have had a fire ban for months but my neighbor over the fence is still burning his trash and the pitbull is still running loose in my yard....just another day in Hick-ville.
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38089:
Good morning, everyone! The sun is shining now, but rain is due anytime and for teh next two or three days. It's rained so much here lately I have mushrooms sprouting up all over the yard. I wish I could bottle some of this moisture and send it to BOO and MDC.
LUCY: (In my best admonishing tone) Don't you ever apologize for asking us for prayer. Not only is that what friends are for, but that is what we are commanded to do (see message 38087 for one). And, frankly, it's our honor and privilage to do what we can to help as you work your way through such grief. BOO has offered you some good advice. You take care!
ROMEENA: We're always open to your sage advice.
Gotta run now...talk to you all later.
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38090:
What about Jimmy Hoffa?
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38091:
If you're passing out prayers, please remember me tomorrow the 19th. It will be a year that my 33 year old daughter died of an eating disorder. She was 5 months pregnant. Life will never be the same and I wish I could feel normal again but that's impossible. Thankyou all
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38092:
To 38091 - we will pray for your strength today as you remember your daughter. You will never know the same normal again - but you will learn a new normal. God will be with you if you ask Him to be and He will guide you through all. . .
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38093:
Asa still has a mullet!!
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38094:
Good morning guys. Well I'm doing okay today. MDC was it you who asked if the car was driveable? Well at any rate no it isn't. Poor thing. The other car didn't have any damage except some black scratches from my car. Mine had to be towed. And since it still belongs to my Dad he is in charge of the fixing. We only had liability insurance and the cost of fixing the car would have been close to the actual worth of the car so Daddy said it wasn't worth fixing. Anyhoo I'm back to driving the Taurus that I drove in highschool and community college. On the bright side I now have an antenna that works, locks that work, and a better radio.
How is everyone? Lucy I'll remember you in my prayers. May God Bless you and those around you.
Feeling a little down today... not depressed "down" just run down. I think we all need a vaction. Anyone up for a Braves game? We'll all meet and have a good old time. I'll spring for Hotdogs and Giant pretzels for everyone! How 'bout it?
Dixie Belle :):):):):):):)
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38095:
Sounds like a plan Dixie. Love a good hotdog and a ball game. I'm there.
Homemaker thinks I have a mullet. Poor girl. I think she's been sniffing them goat droppings for to long and has done warped her thinking ability. :)
Message 38091. You have my prayers who ever you are. Please join us. Pick a name and jump on in.
Well if I'm going to a ball game I better go get my troublecheck checked. Later.
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38096:
Maybe we should just start praying without ceasing. Now where have I heard that before?
38091: Losing a loved one is never easy, and I'm sure it's even more difficult to lose a child. Remember that someone who loves and wants to comfort you is always near. You have my prayers.
DIXIE: Along with the shrimp, no hotdogs for AFD, either. So I'll have hers.
ASA: A mullet? Bless your achey breakey heart.
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38097:
AFD: Wow. We have a lot in common. Aside from you not being a boy I mean. (Mr. AFD and I are both 40--yuck, that leaves a nasty taste--we both have daughters turning six soon, and babies due in July.) Are you copying me?
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38098:
To Lucy. After reading your Msg 38083, I was in shock. You have experienced a lot of grief. I don't know what comfort I can offer. I think you would feel better talking to other women who have experienced similar circumstances.
I had a cousin who died at age 30. His mother (my aunt) was so deeply affected that during the wake and funeral, she had to remain out-of-sight of the casket. So you are not alone.
And to unnamed Msg 38091, my deepest sympathies on the one year anniversary of the death of your daughter and future grandchild.
As for Jimmy Hoffa, if he was terminated by organized crime figures and they didn't want the body to be found, I suspect that the body was dismembered and not buried intact. I seriously doubt you will ever find any evidence (body or other evidence). But it makes sense that his remains could be in Michigan since that is where he disappeared from. Afterall, Michigan has plenty of land and surrounding water where body parts can disappear.
from Poor Horatio
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38099:
Im at work now gang...let me read the mail...back supper in a bit!...SPOT
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38100:
Hey Spot, whatever you make for dinner, make a lot. I got me a powerful hunger coming on.
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38101:
It's all that extra weight from Asa's mullet that makes him so hungry. . if he would let Floyd snip a little here and cut a little there - he would have so much more energy than all that hair weighing him down. . .
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38102:
Hi, all. Mavis, thanks for the referral to the raccoon repellent site - very interesting. In fact, I was about to order it, when I realized that it would probably repel my squirrels just as well as the coons, so didn't order. I suppose I could put it around the pond and nowhere else, but the squirrels go there too, and enjoy the fountain where it bubbles out of the boulder. I'd really hate to make them feel unwelcome. Gotta think about that.
Lucy, bless your little heart. You have been hit hard, too many times. I'm sorry you've had to endure so much, and really admire your strength and grace. I have prayed for you and will continue to do so. And #38091, please feel free to visit here whenever you can. We'd like for you to choose a name and join us, but if you'd prefer be an unseen porchster for a while, that's okay too. I think you wouldn't be the only one. We don't mind. God bless you, dear heart.
Asa, thanks for your prayers on the 15th. Others prayed for me that day, too, and I could feel it. I was in much better shape than I would have thought possible.
Boo, you're so right about the journaling and how it can help when you're under stress. As I may have mentioned before, I started a journal just three weeks after my husband's death, and continued it to this day. It's not a daily thing, I just make entries when I feel the need to do so, but it has helped a lot. Not only does the writing help, but going back later and reading what was written is helpful too. It gives me a comparison. When I read some of the first entries now, it's such a relief to know that I have come so far and am so much better. I'm even able now to go back into those first entries and add notes - flashbacks to our early years of marriage, or flashforwards to today, to fill out and enhance the journal notes. I've been told by several who have read parts of it that I should turn it into a book, something that could be helpful to new widows. Who knows, perhaps I will. Charlotte Tucker, what do you think? Do you know of any publishers that might be interested in such as that?
Well, gotta work tonight, I think I'll grab a little catnap before going in. Sugarplum says 10-4. --Romeena
P.S. Hey, does anyone know if the pickle factory is still hiring brine testers? I'm getting pretty tired of hospital nursing. Wonder if the county is looking for a county nurse?
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38103:
Prayer time is tonight, 8:55 p.m. EST.
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38104:
Hey Homemaker, if I let Floyd snip a little here and a little there I'd be looking like a cue ball before long. He has no self control. Fine feller, but not much finese around the old noggin.
Boo, got all done with my electric job. Now I think I'll go home and fix the dishwasher. (that'll get her all bubbly wubbly lol)
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38105:
Whoops, rocked on ya there Ro and MT.
Try being a glue dipper at the furniture factory Romeena.
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38106:
Good Afternoon Porch,
Tough day on the Michigan end of the porch. I told you all about my son being in trouble with the law for driving on a restricted license, etc. I went to court today to see how things would go for him. They gave him an $1100. fine or 60 days in jail. The reason he kept getting in all this trouble is because he doesn't have any money, (at least one of the reasons), so of course, that means he will be in jail for a while. What is really sad is that when he is done with this sentence, he has three more similar warrants in a different county that he will have to take care of. He may be sitting in jail for quite a while. He looked kind of depressed when he left the courtroom. I have been near tears all day over it, but I know God has him in His hand. He has written me a couple of the most beautiful letters since he has been in jail. I sure hope he can put all this behind him and not get discouraged. Prayers for John would be greatly appreciated.
As far as Jimmy Hoffa, I don't think they are going to find anything either. They have searched that area before, and rumors have been circulating for years that he was buried there. I guess that whole situation shows maybe you better NOT defy the mafia!! ;)
Romeena, please look into getting your journal published. You are one gifted writer, and I bet it would be like a balm to grieving widows.
Lucy and msg. 38091 my prayers go out for both of you.
Does anybody have a good incant to get some of this rain sent down Boo's way?
Have a wonderful Mayberry evening all!
(Hey Asa, nice mullet!)
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38107:
Supper tonight:..pot roast,red taters,green beans,slaw...busy here at work...storms came through...asa...eat a bunch!...back in just a bit...hey mw,lucy,millie,ro,boo,horatio,m-t,and all...SPOT
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38108:
Andy: Goober, how'd you get that car in here?!
Floyd: It's a BEAUTIFUL piece of work, Andy, just beautiful.
Giley: It still don't run right.
Andy: Goober, how you plannin' on gettin' it out of here?
OK, guess what episode I watched last night! ha
Boo- I take one capsule daily, because it isnt an "antibiotic" in the medical sense, it is just an immune system booster. Great for stress, like with the job layoff, because it beats off those free radical cancer cells etc. But first sign of an infection or cold is a good time to take it also!
I am SUPER close on the Richmond American job!!!
Prez was in AZ today looking at the border. I pray he is serious and not just election year posturing!
Prayers for all, still keeping thwe prayer time.
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38109:
Glue dipper, hmmm? Might be interesting. --Romeena
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38110:
RAIN RAIN GO AWAY BECAUES YOU ARE MAKING ME SICK OF IT.
LUCY WHERE IN CLEVELAND DID YOUR IN-LAW LIVE .
I DID LIVE ABOUT 10MIN FROM THE LAKE E.
I HEAT GOING TO THE DOC. JUST BECAUES ,I AM OVER 50 , SHE WANT ME TO GO ALL KINSOF TEST .
EVERYTHING SO GRAND
THE GENTLY BLOWING BREEZE
NUDGES THE LOVELY FLOWERS
INTO A DANCE, RELEASING RAIN
FROM THE RECENT SHOWERS.
THE SLOWLY MOVING CLOUDS
REFLECT INTO A POND NEARBY,
AS DOES THE INFINITE EXPANSE
OF AN AZURE BLUE-FILLED SKY.
IN THE CLEAR WATERS OF THE POND,
GOLDFISH PLAY HIDE AND SEEK,
DARTING IN, OUT, AND AROUND,
BENEATH WATER LILIES PEEK.
THE MELODIOUS SONG OF BIRDS
IS HEARD AS THEY BUILD A NEST
WHERE A NEWBORN BABY BIED
BECOMES THE LATEST GUEST.
THE DISTANT PURPLE MOUNTAINS
TO THE HEAVENS TRY TO REACH.
FAR BELOW, THE ROLLING SURF
TOSSES WAVES UPON THE BEACH.
IN THIS WONDER WORLD,
GIFTS FROM THE CREATOR'S HAND.
WE THANK AND PRAISE HIM
FOR EVERYTHING SO GRAND.
PRAYER FOR EVERYONE
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38111:
in lincoln, illinois paper tonight- mount airy, n.c. two fans have received permission to put up a barney fife life size statue. tom hellibrand and nealshelton says the project will cost $35,000. they will raffle off a golf cart made like the squad car and a restored squad car. they are accepting donations, all above cost will be donated to a charity in don knotts name. rodney dillard turned 64 today.... mary wiggins, prayers for you and your son. i was hatched in benton harbor, mi. what town are you from? spot- thanks for supper. another great one. mdc- prayers you get your job. asa- floyds a great feller but can't seem to master sideburns. glue dipper in a furniture factory would make a good book. ro- need a county nurse until ours is found, a pickle brine tester? as long as it's not aunt bea 's recepie. dixie belle, bless your heart, a ball game wold be great. in todays world it's hard to find peaceful retreat to recharge one's batteries. maybe we need a mayberry retreat. a stop over at homemakers goat emporium on the way to mayberry. buckeye
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38112:
Msg 38091, I hope you will return and allow us to be a part of your life. I can't even begin to imagine your pain but I can pray and listen. Wish I could reach through this cyber-porch and give you a great, big hug.
Prayers for John, Mary Wiggins. It must be very tough to go through what you are going through but your faith shines through. Believe God.
Me-They, I really got a good laugh from what you said about Asa's mullet. Hilarious!
Asa, I felt quite a burst of emotion when I read about the dishwasher....what a mighty good man (even with a mullet)! Your wife must be the happiest woman in town.
MDC, I don't know if I would feel comfortable taking the Oregamax every day. I'm always concerned about something reacting to my other meds. I sure have been tired alot lately, though. Just a combination of things. Have any of you ever lost a considerable amount of weight and felt alot more energy from it? I am wondering if it's just the extra weight that is making me tired.
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38113:
Hello porch family.
Lucy...don't you ever feel sorry asking for prayer. As everyone has said, that's what friends are for. Thank God we have each other to pray. Thanks for allowing us.
Prayers for Msg.38091
Dixie Belle...the Braves game sounds good to me. They won another one today. Getting closer to the Mets. (both Mets & Phillies lost)
M-T...thank God that in a Spirit of prayer we can meet together no matter what end of the porch we are at. God's Spirit has no boundries.
Mary Wiggins...prayers for John. And for you also to have strength and peace during this time.
Spot...thanks again for supper.
Be back in a little while. (after prayer time)
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38114:
Boo..just a comment...a friend of mine was feeling tired all the time so she did a detox cleanse and started taking noni juice. She said she started feeling so much better with renewed energy. I have done cleanses before but never used noni products. Not saying that this is what you should do but just something to think about. Prayers for you.
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38115:
Evenin' Porch! The weather here was a bit odd. It was sunny and breezy then a huge cloud came and you'd have thought the sky was gonna fall out. Then 5 minutes later it was beautiful again.
Thank you all for the prayers. I believe I'm going to wait for hubby to come home. Most days I can handle all that I'm given, but when it gets piled up its a little more difficult. I never want to say anything because I don't want people feeling sorry for me. Muzzie (grandmother) gave me a journal right after Nathaniel died and I may try that. Thank you Boo and Romeena for the suggestion. We're all SO blessed to have eachother.
Mary Wiggins- Prayers for John. Do you believe this time in jail will be helpful or harmful to him?
Dixie- I'm always up for a Braves game. We all need a stress break.
Msg 38091- So sorry for your loss. Losing a child is the most difficult thing to experience. I'll be praying.
Rev & Boo- I wholly recommend a detox cleanse. Don Colbert, MD has written a wonderful book called Toxic Relief and he has some great cleanses. To start off I would eat only fruits and veggies for 2 weeks to see if your liver can handle a tougher cleanse. I don't like the Noni juice taste, but that's just a personal preference. Noni and Mangosteen are great products.
Tom- They are about 40 miles south of Cleveland towards Mansfield. The town is called Shelby. Do you get alot of lake effect snow as they do? Good luck on the tests!
I don't know about y'all, but I'm so thankful that Will & Grace and That 70s show are not producing new shows. Its unforunate that our children are growing up with that (in my opinion)filth. Well, all, have a great night. Its almost prayer time so I'd better skedattle.
Blessings to you and yours,
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38116:
Time for Prayer! Prayers for everyone on the porch.....may God's spirit move you in a positive direction!
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38117:
Prayers to all in need..hey Lucy,Rev,Boo,MDC,TOM,mullet asa!,hm,mt,and all gosh we are missing so many...finally slowed down a bit here at work...snack tonight will be thick cut sharp cheese and crackers,RC cola..will check back in just a bit...here all night!...SPOT the"go Taylor Hicks" dog of your fine porch..
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38118:
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May 18, 2006 - Msg 38124:
Hey Spot, MD, I lost my schedule, where's the race this week?
Boo- I understand about holding off. It would probably mess up your budget anyways! ha
What yu are taking tho sure sounds like the right direction. I have always been thin, (pix in the album) so I cant say much in the weight dept. Sorry. I do dream of Colorado a lot tho, if that counts for anything! ha
Buckeye, have a safe trip to TN. When you mentioned the Goat Emporium I thought of the ep where Floyd renames the barber shop the Tonsorial Parlor! ha
Hey to Asa, homemaker Ro, CT, REV, M-T and all.
TOM_ great poem! Hope you get thru all that rain . Prayers for you!
Lucy dear- all I can offer is my prayers! God bless you dear.
Also prayers for Mavis, AFD, Possum, Alyce, Slim YMK, and all porchsters this night!
Peace to you,
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38125:
Spot- I'm on board with you for Taylor. He's the best one on there!
MDC- I finally finished Texas Ranch House. The assessment was right on the money. I mean come on, they lost their #1 commodity in the cowboys. Mrs. Cooke is something else. They must live in a fairy land to think they did the right things out there. Frontier House is still my fave.
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38126:
Chinese fire drill! Har, just me ole Fred, on the road again, Goss.
Lots of good discussion on the porch!
Count me in on sayin some prayers!
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38127:
MDC YOU CAN HAVE ME RAIN.
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38128:
Evenin' folks! Still gorgeous here at the beach...caught some more mullet today....the fish,that is....does Asa really have a mullet? More prayers for Lucy for strength 'til hubby gets home.Msg38091, prayers and hugs from the porch.....set a spell. Hey to MDC,Boo,Rev,Ro, hm,M-T,...Spot, thanks for the snack, I love sharp cheese. Tom, thank you for the lovely poem, you're a blessing to us all. Dixie, Mavis, Possum, Poor Horatio, and all porchsters........
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38129:
Boo, regarding your fatigue, for so long I thought I was tired because of chemo effects or cancer symptoms.......I had to go into fast early menapause, plus I've been on so many different medicines, including anti-depresants prescribed by my oncologist.....overall effect has been weight gain, and I have been uncomfortable about it, doc says no big deal, but now that I've lost a few pounds(because of the hospital and surgery and stuff) I find I'm less tired. It's tough on the body.
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38130:
MDC the race boys are off this week..next is lowes motor speedway on the 28th!Lucy I just like the way Taylor puts on a show!..good evening Millie..we dont know if asa has a mullet he want send Ro an pick to post on our porch page![bet he does]..hey TOM..boy we has a RAIN here today sure gona help my garden..buckeye travel safe!...well caught up here at work..all lights are ON!..think I will take the boat out sat..suppose to be in the mid 80"s here in Ga..do a little fishing...well back to my movie Blue Streak....SPOT
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38131:
Hello porch...just wanted to check in and tell everyone goodnight.
Lucy and Spot...I'm pulling for Taylor also.
Blessing to all...-REV.
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38132:
Evening Porch! Prayers for everyone! Tom you must be pretty close to my end of the porch, seems we are having the same weather. Is it cold there too? It was 39 degrees here this morning!! In MAY! Ro I thought of the squirrels too when it came to that coon stuff, is there a company around there that comes out & traps the critters & relocates them to more appropriate places? We have one here called "Critter Getter" Lucy I understand how you feel, miscarriages are hard, I only have Jacob, but that wasn't my choice, it was God's. I carried him full term, no problems, but have had 11 miscarriages. So the way I figure it, much as I wanted another child, Jacob is here for a reason & I count my blessings everyday to have him. The Good Lord gave him to me, so I'll take him! As hard as it is, (believe me, I know it's hard) focus on Bryson more than your lost ones, they are safe in heaven. Hope that doesn't sound mean, it's not meant to, just the way I dealt with it. Anyway, I'm off to bed, tomorrow is the start of the big dog show weekend here & I have to go help set up, register dogs & then come back & fix some dishes for the big bash on Sat. Talk to ya'll tomorrow.
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38133:
Oh, and I did NOT trim Asa's hair, I only trim his ears! So don't blame that mullet on me.
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38134:
MAVIS, are you gonna be in Richmond this weekend?
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38135:
Ha, that thar is funny about the mullet, Mavis!...11 miscarriages, Mavis, how hard that must be. Thank God for Jacob (and for Bryson). When I was working in labor and delivery I met a woman who had had 11 elective abortions before she finally decided to keep one. Can you imagine that? How horribly sad that she would use abortion as birth control while so many other women would give anything to carry and give birth to healthy babies. Sometimes life is full of horrible irony.
REV, how do you do a detox (and it better not include enemas!)?
SPOT, I was kind of pulling for Elliot since he is from Millie's hometown and all...my next choice is Taylor, though. I think that girl with the dark hair looks more like she belongs in a pagaent or something.
Hey Fred, good to hear from you, Buddy. Hope things are going well with you.
Lucy, I can do the fruit and veggie thing and I think I have Colbert's book here in the bookcase...guess I will pull it out. He has some good ideas about things.
MDC, I am glad you have never had a weight problem, hope you never do...it can be really tough, feels hopeless sometimes (its not, of course). I get discouraged by the people I have known who lose weight only to regain it plus more. I even have a relative who had gastric bypass and never lost the weight. Anyway, went walking tonight and took Sean along with me. It was a beautiful evening. When we were at the park I saw this young man, probably 18, who was playing soccer. He was thin with curly brown hair and was wearing white shorts and a white top. He looked like an angel playing soccer. The way he moved so easily and just flew all over the field. Oh, to feel like that with that energy and agility! I also saw a woman of about 60 who looked like she had the body of a 25 year old! Muscular legs and arms...she looked amazing. I guess anything is possible.
Hey Millie, so you caught some more mullet today. When ya going back home?
Better think about going to bed. Talk to you tommorow.
May 18, 2006 - Msg 38136:
Millie I won't be in Richmond until next month, June 23-25, this weekend is here at home. Boo I just wanted to make sure everyone knows, I do EARS, not mullets (fish or haircuts), but you can bring some swordfish home with you to cook Millie. teehee
Now this time I really AM going to bed. Big Maude you ok, those were some bad storms that went through here tonight & the tv said they hit your area first. Please check in.
May 19, 2006 - Msg 38137:
Hey Tom, I was hoping I could send some of this Canadian rain over your way!!!
MDC, I hate people who can eat anything and not gain weight. There is one guy in my neighborhood whose weight gain makes him look 20 years older. In fact, I think I see him outside my window right now. Oops, I was looking in a mirror ... LOL
from Poor Horatio
May 19, 2006 - Msg 38138:
Hello, porch. It's about 3 am and I'm wide awake.....the roaring sound of the surf in the backround is reminding me tommorow I go home.....It'll be good to see the kids, I've missed them so much. But I keep thinking about going back to work ....the closing on the restaurant is days away, and I'll be going in to work next week-for the first time in about 6 years......I'm excited, but also a little nervous. About not always being there for the kids, about being a success(alot of people are counting on me!) and about actually having ALL of my dreams come true......is it true what they say about "be careful what you wish for"? And am I crazy and/or in denial to do all this when statistically speaking, I'll only be around a few more months anyway? Am I rambling because I drank a mountain dew and am wide awake in the wee hours? Definetly. Friends, parden my candor, I'm just so glad to have this place to get it out.....WHEW!! thank you
May 19, 2006 - Msg 38139:
Hey Millie cant wait for your restaurant to open...where are you on vac. at?..what beach?..sounds nice..Mavis hope you get some rest...Poor Horatio sorry to tell you but I eat like a hog and gain none..gained one pant size since HS 29 years ago 32 to a 33 waist...but just dont know how healthy is is to be able to eat anything...my mom is the same way....well speaking of eating breakfast:..3 eggs your way,flap jacks,country ham[center cut],hashbrowns with cheese,bacon,bisquits with milk gravy,grits [lots of butter],canalope chunks,coffee,h20...and a tear from my roll of paper towels..asa dont be late...you and Big Maude...ready at 6:30...millie hope you get up in time if not we will keep it warm....SPOT
May 19, 2006 - Msg 38140:
My goodness Mavis. You have seen your share of heartache. You have things in good perspective though. Don't mourn what might have been, but enjoy what you've been blessed with. Good advice.
Boo, I'd be interested in knowing about that cleansing too. And I'm with you in reagards to ennamas. Tain't happening here! You mention about the folks you know who have lost weight, only to regain it all back and then some. Sadly, weight loss through a diet only approach has a very poor track record. I think I read in one study done on folks it was about an 85% failure rate. Not good, and not good for your body to have your weight going up and down. The good news is that if a person can include even moderate daily exercise the chance for weight loss that stays off increases greatly. So going out for those walks will help a lot. I try to run daily, but with my back problems that doesn't always work real well. So I do a lot of walking as well. After a while you'll come to love doing it. So keep at it. 30 minutes a day will do wonders for you. (boy, do I sound like Covert Bailey or what?)
Millie, you are a real inspiration to me. With what you are dealing with health wise, and not willing to just throw in the towel. I applaude your spirit. I just have to think attitude plays a big part in the healing process, and I love yours. I hope your family is able to support your efforts. Prayers for you.
Spot, breakfast sounds great buddy. I must be getting better, although I have a dry hacking cough that has my gut muscles sore from tensing up. But the last day or two I have been eating like a goverment mule. I hope thats a good sign.
It's Friday, and I hear they are changing the marquee over at the Grand this afternoon. Let's all meet at the diner for that buisnessmans special and then go watch them change the marquee. You guys in?
May 19, 2006 - Msg 38141:
Good morning you sweet things. . .even you Asa (by the way, Mavis did a nice job on your ears!) -
The school year is winding down and just in time.
See you at the marquee changing - I hope it's another Glenn Ford movie, I just love him!
May 19, 2006 - Msg 38142:
I'm with you, Asa. Always did get a kick out of watching them change the marquee. Of course, you can watch them change the gasoline prices just about anytimne you take a notion, but somehow, that's not as much fun.
Mavis, eleven miscarriages? Bless your heart! I just can't imagine how hard that must be. I know about losing a child (grandchild in my case) and it's rough. It always feels like it just wasn't really supposed to happen. I like your consoling attitude, though - that they're safe with their heavenly Father, and will never know any of the pains of this earth.
Boo, a couple of years ago, just before the first Mongolia trip, I lost about 40 pounds. Not really trying, I just wasn't hungry, and the weight just melted off. I think God knew I didn't need to carry that weight to Mongolia, it would have been too stressful, so he just killed my appetite. I have no other explanation. I do know that I felt absolutely wonderful, and ran circles around people half my age on that trip. In the ensuing year, I gained about half of it back, and on the second trip, I was okay, but didn't feel nearly as well as I did on the first one. Then in this past year, I've regained the other 20, am back where I started, and feel awful. Short of breath, back just kills me, no stamina. I've got to get the weight off again and keep it off. Lord, I need help!
Well, gotta run. Sugarplum says 10-4.--Romeena
May 19, 2006 - Msg 38143:
Good morning everyone! Haven't had a chance to go back and read beyond the last few, so I'll try to do that and stop back later.
May 19, 2006 - Msg 38144:
Oh, great; now ASA and HOMEMAKER are gonna be Glenn Fording it all over town!
May 19, 2006 - Msg 38145:
Well SPOT, I have added you to my "hate" list because you can eat anything and not gain weight.
So you have a 34 waist size? That's my neck size! LOL
Millie, you posted "tomorrow I go home". Where are you?
from Poor Horatio
May 19, 2006 - Msg 38146:
Morning Porch! Getting ready to head to Gray, TN for the day. Big Maude please check in so I know you are ok. Ro another coon remedy, maybe.....baby powder scattered around?? Seems they don't like it. Go figure. Asa glad to see you have your appet-te back. Millie bring me a sea shell back please. I can't wait to meet you next month! homemaker you behave over the summer break, don't listen to Asa or Spot they will get you in trouble. Spot can you come grill burgers & dogs for the Whippet bash tomorrow? I'll see ya'll tonight with news on how things went.
i before e, except after c and e before n in chicken
May 19, 2006 - Msg 38147:
Morning M-T & Poor Horatio didn't see you come in.
May 19, 2006 - Msg 38148:
Here's another country heard from on the weight thing...With my daughter getting married next March, I started walking almost every day for about an hour a day. I started that about 2 months ago, and I feel a lot more energy. I don't believe I have lost any weight however. I suppose I should modify my diet at least a LITTLE bit! (Maybe I should say bitE!) My goal is to walk everyday. That way, if the weather is just awful, or my schedule just too hectic, I may miss a day here or there, but by shooting for every day, I believe I have walked at least 95% of the days since I started this thing. I suppose I should ask God to help me change my att-itude towards eating, since I haven't had much success in that area, so that's what I will do right now! God, help me change my att-itude towards eating! Thanks, Jesus!
Lucy M., you asked if I thought whether jail time will be helpful or harmful to John. I can only pray it will be helpful. That's something else I can ask God to cover...Jesus, keep John safe in YOUR care while he spends time in jail, and cause him to draw ever closer to You. Thanks again, Lord!
Cold and wet again on the Michigan end of the porch. But, it true optimistic Mayberry nature..."Aren't the trees nice and green." (Or, "aren't the trees nice and full", for you Mayberry purists!
Have a wonderful Mayberry day all!
May 19, 2006 - Msg 38149:
Did you all know that Glnen Ford is 90 years old?
May 19, 2006 - Msg 38150:
oops - that should be GLENN (e befor n in Glenn)!
May 19, 2006 - Msg 38151:
Morning folks, Hope all is well this Friday morning. Thanks for asking about me Mavis.. I have been busy this week and feelings kinda overwhelmed with all that is going on. This is the last week of school for my kids. In addition to my daughters birthday, we have had something every night and not been getting home until 9 or 10 pm, after having worked all day as well. My little ole mind and body is begining to feel the effects of it all. On a positive note, however, my son was invited to honors night last night and received the Freshman Honors Biology
Award. We are pretty proud of him. Several of the kids from our church also won academic awards and scholarships for college so that was exciting. In all the bad that we hear about teen agers today, it is such a blessing to see and know that there are as many and hopefully more teen agers on the other side of the bad stuff. Hopefully, I can pull myself out of this funk (part of it I am conviced is the dreaded menopause acoming on me)I am in and will feel better. I have so much to be thankful for so there is no reason for me to feel this way. Anyway, thanks for listening.
Maybe, I can drop by later. Big Maude
May 19, 2006 - Msg 38152:
Yeah Big Maude, Congratulations to your son. Mavis, thank you for sharing your story. I will continue to focus on Bryson. As I said the other day, I really don't think about it all until its like thrown in my face. Boo, since February I have lost 26 lbs by cutting all of my meals in half and making at least 50% raw fruits and veggies. I have also cut out all cokes. If I need a pick me up I only drink tea. I also get on either the bike or skiing machine 3x per week and walk for a few minutes the other days. I have basically been pregnant since Jan. 2004 and never fully lost my weight from Bryson, so I'm just now trying. You can do it! This time of the year is the easiest to lose weight. I have 15 or so to lose until I'm at my "ideal" weight. I have felt bad being a Dr.'s wife and being overweight, but I realized that was my own insecurities that was keeping me down. I was complacent. As soon as I started puttin' on my face and gave my fat clothes away then I wanted to take care of myself. Hubby always said he liked me natural and didn't care what I wore. As soon as I got highlights in my hair and putting make-up on then he started to change his tune. That attention made me want to feel better and so I started eating better and working out. Then the weight began coming off. Joyce Meyer has a new book out called 12 steps to Look Great and Feel Great and she says that same thing. Well, I'm going to go pamper myself. Hubby said I could get a pedicure and I'm going to do that and have lunch at Panera. Anybody joining me? Well, have a great day!
Blessings to you and yours,
May 19, 2006 - Msg 38153:
Mary Wiggins, I pray that same prayer for John. When there are trials and tribulations (Lord knows at 29-for real Me-They, ha-I have had my share) you can either grow closer to God or further away. We'll pray that he grows closer. Does he have a bible there?
May 19, 2006 - Msg 38154:
Mary Wiggins, please forgive me. I meant to mention a prayer for your son in my earlier post. I know it's hard to see our young-uns make bad choices but it's important that they realise their choices have ramifications. It's the cause and effect principle I have always preached to my kids. One listened and has done pretty good, one has listened but still feels the need to tempt wisdom, the third is kind of a knot head and is still trying to grasp the concept of responsibility. I hope he will soon learn. I hope your John does as well.
MT, Glnen Ford (I went to the same school as homemaker) is a-ok. He just brings an awareness that we gotta shape up around here chief!
Poor Horatio, I thought you was only a half boy. :)
Well gotta go get some work done.
May 19, 2006 - Msg 38155:
Whoops, good to see you Maude. I think I rocked on yer toes.
May 19, 2006 - Msg 38156:
Gosh gang I see the porch is full will have to read when I get to work....and Asa and I trouble makers!...[hee hee]....and yea I will cook for the bash Mavis!..catch yali in just a bit....SPOT
May 19, 2006 - Msg 38157:
Sorry, SPOT, my waist has you beat by two inches. I eat a bowl of ice cream nearly every night and my wife hates me for it. But the last year or so my metabolism is starting to lose it's umph.
POOR HORATIO: Don't feel bad; we all have a cross to bear. In the end, though, weight can be lost but nothing can be done about the increasing amounts of hair I see in the shower drain lately!
Hey to FRED GOSS! Glad to hear from you. "Keep on truckin'."
MARY WIGGINS: You and your son have my prayers. Sometimes you have to hit rock bottom to get the momentum to shoot to the top. Your son sounds a lot like my brother-in-law. After lots of warnings and chances, he finally got a few months on the state to figure out what he really wanted in life. During that time he began reading the Bible and really turned his life around. Before he went in he was a single, partying guy. Even though he's now not a practicing Christian, five years later he is doing great at his job, is a faithful husband and great father to two kids. With God, all things are possible.
Prayers also for LUCY, BIG MAUDE and all you others that need them (so all of you).
ASA: Are you working or napping? I've seen how you guard a bank.
Hey also to MAVIS, MILLIE, HM, ROMEENA, and anybody I forgot!
"You know I hate when you get obtuse!"--Barney
May 19, 2006 - Msg 38158:
Asa, I love what you said to Millie, I second that. Handymanliness, a way with words...I can forgive the mullet. I think you are right about the walking. I am beginning to love it already. Hope it sticks and you are right about weight loss/exercise. Diets don't work, but healthy eating and exercise does. As far as my husband is concerned, I know he adores me at any weight but is concerned about my health.
Homemaker, I LOVE Glenn Ford, too. Did you ever see him in Ransom? Its one of my favorite movies and he is amazing in it.
Awesome news about your son, Maude. It does my heart good to hear about kids his age doing well. I, too, am wondering if the menopause thing is happening to me. I am only 43 and my mom was 50 when it happened to her so maybe it is still early for me...will have to blame my mood swings on something else! haha
I'll join ya Lucy, I could use a pedicure. I am glad you are taking care of yourself, that's great. Sure wish I only had 15 lbs to lose. I have alot more than that. If I could lose 50 or 60 lbs I would be happy. Sounds like trying to move a mountain so I try not to think of numbers and just concentrate on being healthier and feeling better.
RO, I know just how you feel. About 2 years ago I started taking Glucopahge for my polycystic ovarian syndrome (which causes weight gain) and I lost 30 lbs rather easily. I was having side affects from the med so the doc took me off of it. Not only did I gain back the 30 lbs but probably 20 more...I am afraid to find out what I weigh at this point but my joints hurt, my back...you name it...no energy, either. The good news is the doc put me back on the Glucophage at half-dose and I seem to be tolerating it ok, will be working my way up to full dose. I will pray that the Lord would help you to lose the weight you lost and keep it off.
SPOT, I am glad you don't gain weight but you are right when you say it might lead to unhealthy eating..make sure you get the nutrients you need.
Better go...my sister is here..she turns 49 today and is really bummed about it...I think I will go harrass her about it.
May 19, 2006 - Msg 38159:
Anybody want to hear my Cary Grant impression?
May 19, 2006 - Msg 38160:
Want to hear some good news??? "The Da Vinci Code" is receiving terrible reviews. Many are saying that Tom Hanks is miscast, and the movie takes the books thrills and turn them into yawns. I don't mean to rain on Opie's parade, but I hope this movie ends up in the K-Mart DVD bargain bin next month.
May 19, 2006 - Msg 38161:
Wow, M-T, that was great!
May 19, 2006 - Msg 38162:
Of course, I meant your Cary Grant impression!
May 19, 2006 - Msg 38163:
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May 19, 2006 - Msg 38165:
Did I hear an owl in the daytime?
May 19, 2006 - Msg 38166:
Hey, porchsters....I'm home from the Outer Banks. What a lovely impromptu vacation....I'm lucky to have a hubby who does things like that. Asa, thanks for your kind words. You're nice, I don't care what anybody says. And I doubt you have a mullet. Maude, I've got loads of experience and advice on the early menapause thing. It's kinda weird, but part of the cycle of life.....to every thing there is a season. Hey to MT, Mary Wiggins, homemaker, Poor Horatio,Lucy,Spot, Boo, Romeena. Mavis, I'm looking forward to seeing you, too! Y'all are birds in this world!
May 19, 2006 - Msg 38167:
Hey gang here at work now...tonight its fried pork chops and cream taters and cream corn and cornbread...tea....busy here at work....back in a bit...SPOT
May 19, 2006 - Msg 38168:
I'm gonna have to skip dinner with y'all this evening; the Mrs. is taking me out for a belated birthday dinner (just the two of us!). I'm scooting out of here, so take care and have a great weekend everybody. Y'all beat everything, you know that?
Remember, prayer time tonight, tomorrow and Sunday at 8:55 p.m. EST.
"Let me take you to the land of rhythm and pleasure."
May 19, 2006 - Msg 38169:
Hey Spot - count the whole homemaker family in for tonite's feast - sounds better than grandpa's (remember Hee Haw, Hey Grandpa, what's for supper?)
Asa still has that mullet! But he likes to watch them Glnen Ford movies and that's okay by me!
May 19, 2006 - Msg 38170:
I love that quote, Me-They! Hope you have a terrific birthday dinner, wish we could all be there to sing Happy Birthday to ya.
I think we are taking the kids to a movie tonight. The boss gave Bruce some free movie tickets and gift certificates for restraunts for some extra work he did for him the other day..nice, real nice. I think we will see "Over the Hedge"....not very exciting for Bruce and I but the kids want to see it. To tell you the truth, I only go see kid-friendly movies because I am afraid of what I might see and hear in most of what is out there...I hate the feeling I get when my conscience gets to bothering me. Ya'll know what I mean. I just can't sit through alot of movies without my conscience bothering me, especially if they are using the Lord's name in vain (that get's me furious) and that horrible "F" word all the time!
Millie, glad you are back home with the kids. Give them a hug for me.
Well, Erin is in here with her scooter wanting something. Later,
May 19, 2006 - Msg 38171:
Barney: "Call for the doctor,
Call for the nurse,
Call for the lady with the alligator purse!"
May 19, 2006 - Msg 38172:
Barney to Gomer when they were handcuffed together: "You just HAD to have an apple....!!"
May 19, 2006 - Msg 38173:
Howdy, everyone! I worked last night, came in this morning just really tired, and hit the ironing board, semi-comatose for a few hours. I feel a lot better now.
Mavis, I thought about the baby powder thing, though I didn't know they didn't like it. I was thinking in terms of footprints, to identify the thief. You know, kinda like Mr. Upchurch was trying to do when all those cows kept disappearing. Anyway, I ruled it out, because in order for it to do any good, it would have to be placed in areas where it would wash into the pond,
and I think that wouldn't be wise. Haven't lost any fish in a few days, maybe the thief has moved on.
Speaking of thieves and kids getting in trouble - here's a sad story. My brother and his wife own and operate a jewelry store. In the past few weeks, they've been coming up short in the till each evening, and gradually, suspicion began to fall on a teenager that has been working just a few hours a day, after school. She turned 18 last week. So, my high-tech brother set up two well-hidden video cameras, aimed right at the cash register. They now have several clear, unquestionable videos of her taking money. In one you can clearly see her hand ease into the cash drawer, her fingers "crawling" as she gathered up two $20's in her palm, and then her hand moves to her pocket. That evening they were short $40. They don't use a standard register, that "dings" when it's opened, it's just a drawer built into a display case, so she can open it without drawing notice. They've added up the shortages back to the beginning, and it's well over $2000 - a felony. In addition, there was an expensive ring she "bought" for her mother's birthday, but her check, which she very openly placed in the drawer, never made it into the deposits. Other pieces of jewelry have vanished without explanation. (Big joke - maybe we have a packrat?) So now, my very tender-hearted and forgiving brother is facing a difficult decision. Prosecute or not? Tough choice, when the girl is barely 18. A felony conviction will follow her forever. Just talked to my SIL - today's tape caught her taking another $60. Police are now involved, doing a background check and reviewing evidence. Brother and SIL will be meeting with them on Monday - decision will be made then, based on her previous activity and police recommendation. Isn't that sad? Can you imagine how her parents are going to feel when they're confronted with what she's done?
Well, off I go. Sugarplum says 10-4.--Romeena